The Common Denominator in All Your Problems

I was once talking with a friend who said that he could not find the “right” woman. He went on to say that his last two girlfriends cheated on him and the one before them nearly drove him crazy. As I was listening to him complain I asked him a seemingly logical question, “What is the common denominator in all of your girl problems?” He said that they came from broken homes, were not as dedicated to God and were of a certain personality type. I then said, “No, the common denominator in all of your girl problems is you.” In truth these girls may have been bad news but he picked them. He could have passed them up as soon as he saw signs of trouble but he chose to stay, therefore he created his own heartache and problem. (Ouch)

Do you find yourself asking these questions: “Why does this always happen to me? How did this happen again? Why do I have the worst luck with (fill in the blank)?” When bad things happen to you they usually happen to you in the same category. If you are having financial problems now, more than likely it is a reoccurring problem. If you are having relationship problems, then chances are this is not the first time. The same goes for friendships, tardiness and weight and health issues.

The Apple Doesn’t Fall Far From the Tree

Now look back one generation further to your parents. Chances are one or both of them have the same reoccurring problem in their life. Why do you have the same problems as your parents? They were your instructors when you were younger and the areas where they were good they taught you to be good and similarly the areas where they were deficient they taught you to be deficient. If I am not a good golf player then I cannot teach you how to be good at golf, makes sense right? But, in the game of life there are so many aspects that no one person (or two people for that matter) can master every field. Therefore, we all have our strengths and weaknesses.

Now look inside your circle of friends and I bet that your reoccurring problems are their reoccurring problems. Your parents taught you what to believe and what you believe determines what you attract. Scientific studies have shown that thoughts produce energy, a frequency if you will. That frequency is similar to a radio wave that a radio station sends out. If you want to tune in or attract that radio station into your life then you have to switch your radio to their frequency. Therefore, if you believe you deserve wealth you will attract wealthy individuals who are on the same frequency. If you believe that you do not deserve healthy, loving relationships then you will attract friends and partners who will hurt and take advantage of you because you attract whatever frequency you send out.

Change Your Thoughts, Change Your Life

In order to change your reoccurring problem you have to change your frequency and in order to change that frequency you have to change your thoughts. The Bible says that, “Faith is the substance of things hoped for and the evidence of things unseen.” In your life, right now, you are seeing the manifestation of your faith. All that is good and bad you have manifested. Granted sometimes things just happen that is outside of your control but if that “something” keeps happening in the same area then your thoughts are giving life to those problems or opportunities. Faith is repetitive thoughts toward a specific outcome, whether good or bad, and in order to change your thoughts you have to change your environment and influences.

Make the decision to think positive toward your area of difficulty and then make a decision to change your environment to include only those things that reinforce your new belief. Your action will reaffirm your belief because now you are taking action toward your desired outcome and you will begin to notice (usually within a couple of days) that opportunities will present themselves for you to take giant steps and build momentum toward that new belief system.