How to Avoid Miserable Situations
To avoid situations where you might make mistakes may be the biggest mistake of all. ~ Peter McWilliams
Why is it so difficult to trust your gut, to trust your instincts and to take a risk? Right now millions of people are miserable as a result of their present relationship, job or body but what do they do…nothing. As a little game I asked several people yesterday this hypothetical question, “If you were not happy with your relationship and wanted to break up with your boyfriend (or girlfriend) would you rather be the one who ends the relationship or the one who receives the news?” Interestingly everyone but one person whom I asked said that they would rather be dumped. Their reasons were two fold: they did not want to look like the bad guy (or girl) and they did not want to make the wrong choice.
The outcome of my little experiment, which definitely was not the most professional, showed that the majority of individuals would rather be miserable than risk being wrong. Failure teaches us how to succeed. By failing we learned to walk, talk, eat, write, drive, swim, shoot a basketball, play golf, date…and the list goes on and on. Our greatest life lessons come from failures.
Misery is No Teacher
Misery on the other hand was never meant to be an instructor rather a warning showing us that something needs to change. Misery is more like a police officer than a teacher. If you are not driving correctly a police officer tells you that you are in trouble. He does not then show you the proper methods of driving. Likewise, misery informs you that you are not experiencing the quality life that you desire. [Note: My definition of misery is a constant state of sadness, frustration or mental distress.] Failure on the other hand is like an instructor that teaches you what to do and what not to do.
If you find yourself constantly fighting with the man whom you are dating maybe you should leave? Relationships were meant to be enjoyed not a constant emotional battle. If you find yourself working a job that you hate, with people you can’t stand to earn a living that is not enough then maybe you should post your resume on Monster or start a business? My point is do something about your misery besides being miserable. Stop talking about how much you hate your job and change occupations. Stop talking about how you need to start working out and establish a daily routine of going to the gym for 30 minutes prior to work. Determine you image of success and then strive to accomplish that vision.
Your Biggest Obstacle for Success
You are your biggest obstacle for success. If you desire a change in your life realize that nothing will change until you do. This does not make the emotional process of changing easier but with time the emotions will fade and the results will stay. Leave a comment telling me how and what you want to change.
If you enjoyed this post, make sure you subscribe to my RSS feed!Related posts:
- Rediscovering Love on Valentines Day
- Change Your Focus to Change Your Results
- School Marketing Campaign to Meet Budget
- How to Live Life Without Disappointment
- I am a mess. You?
[...] have been effected by the recession and may have experienced department cutting, termination and corporate cutbacks resulting from the down economy. If this is you then maybe Zipi’s is the answer that you have [...]